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What Have You Done for Me Lately?
“What have you done for me, lately?” How many times have you rhetorically asked or been asked that question? I cannot recall the number of times I have asked this question nor can I remember how many I have been asked this question. But, it is a question that seems to be constantly on many people’s minds that are in any relationship when things are not going the way they think they should or when things seem one-sided.
Did you ask the question in a fit of anger after you’d done a lot for the person in question? I know that I have asked that question and been asked that question in anger because either I was not giving all I could give in the relationship, or I felt like the relationship was one-sided. Was it because they seemed to always take without giving back? Or, was it because the relationship did not seem to be reciprocal?
If you answered ‘yes’ to any of those questions, then you have been right where I have been in the past, and you and I will probably get there again in the future. The question, in itself, is not wrong, but when we ask it, we open ourselves to be attacked because it calls the other person’s motives into question. And, it also shows a level of pettiness on our part. It is as if we are giving to get something in return. And, nine times out of ten, getting something in return is not the reason we give of our time, effort, and energy in a…
